Sandra Gertrude Bordin

May 2, 1942 - August 26, 2021

Sandra Gertrude Bordin, 79, of Asheville passed away on Thursday, August 26, 2021. She was born May 22, 1942. Support me by respecting my need for Silence. Lord, I need your Wisdom, your Clarity, Your Peace, the ability to See things as they truly are here and now, your comforter The Holy Spirit and directions in order to navigate this road of Grief I'm on with all of its winding twists, turns, thoughts and feelings. Help me share about the impact my mother has had on my life and the lives of others. On August 26 around 11:10AM Jim and I arrived earlier then we had ever arrived before, to Hospice in Ashville, North Carolina, called The Solace House. Our arrival was at an appointed time. We saw my mother. Jim, Jeremy by phone and I spoke to her knowing this was her last chapter and there wasn't much time to say goodbye. I held her hand, massaged her shoulders and she layed her head down. We saw her take in her last breath of life around 11:30 AM. The Love I have been witnessing that you, family and friends have for my mother touched her heart and ours very deeply. We got to tell her how Loved she was in those last moments by us and you. I said, "mom there's so much Love around you." I got to tell her before she leapt off of life's mountain top that it was ok now, it's ok to let go. I know in my heart she did and she was able to fly. My mother, your Grandmother, your aunt, your cousin, your sister, your beloved friend Sandra loved life so much that she wanted to live to be 100 years old and her main goal in life was to be able to eat another one of my husband Jim's delicious meals. Through life my mother, Sandra, became stronger then even she believed she was. In the ring, she was a prize fighter battling esophageal Cancer, facing the disappointment when her surgeon couldn't remove her tumor because Cancer spread to her abdominal lining. Coming to the realization that the only way out now was through Acceptance. In Life, Sandra, made it through many trials, tribulations tests and temptations. She learned many lessons. Her heart was shattered at an early age, when the man she married and loved David, left her and her three children for another woman who lived in New York City. He didn't like her improving herself or working. She had her high school diploma. Sandra pursued several fulfilling careers and was privileged to be able to help a lot of people. She had warm healing hands. In North Carolina when she was 78 years young, active, walking every day, doing yoga, lifting light weights, she volunteered to help at a Homeless shelter. Sandra was very social. She magnetically drew beautiful people into her life. She was very outgoing. She opened up her heart. She discovered that there are no perfect people and no perfect relationships since we all have our strengths and vulnerabilities and we’re all doing the best that we can. My mother lived by her Morals. I came from out of town, to see my mom, slept over in her small apartment and I prayed throughout the night for my mom to have a Miracle in her life. I believe that God heard my Prayers and Answered them. Not long after that, my mother met Ed. A Boaz, and her life's trajectory changed course forever. Ed loved and cherished Sandra. Sandra loved and respected Ed. Ed was a very wonderful man and husband to her. I would tell him that he's 1 in a trillion Zillion. They were blessed to find each other. They got married within about 6 months, traveled to many wonderful places in the World. Loved going out to eat at fine restaurants. Ed exposed my mother to The Arts. They attended plays, operas, museums, concerts and other venues. They were both avid readers and avid cleaners. Ed learned to dance with mom his Dancing Queen to the music of Abba after he met her. Mom won some dancing contests. She was a terrific dancer. I believe that the most important thing my mother learned was to love and receive love with Ed. Cancer humbled her even more. Her walls and defenses came crashing down when she knew she was approaching the end of her life. She told me, "I didn't sign up for this." Sandra lived a Beautiful life, filled with all the colors of the Rainbow. She truly Loved you all. Thank you for standing beside my mother when she faced the darker colors in her life. Thank you all for Trusting her with your heart. Thank you all for seeing her beauty within and without. Thank you for letting go of judgements, projections and cognitive distortions. Thank you mom. We're never going to be the same because you’re irreplaceable and you left a love shaped scar in our hearts forever. What I will miss the most is the sparkle in your pretty, blue eyes, our mother daughter time, the weekends you spent over at our house and our holidays together. God, please tell my mom that we love her and she will always have a home within our hearts. I was driving to see her before she went into Hospice and a Tom Petty song I had never heard before came on and he sang "Cause she'll go on forever, She'll go on forever, she's gonna shine forever, Like a diamond in the sunlight." I'm so aware that life is so brief compared to Eternity. May we all see our walls and defenses come crashing down so we can live here and now, able to see things as they truly are without projections. Keep dancing and keep Shining mom. I love you and I miss you.